A complaint free world

I guess everybody knows someone who’s always complaining. She just goes on and on and on. Nothing ever seems to be right. How I ‘d wish she would just stop whining. Yesterday, someone burst my bubble of holiness.  I may not have been complaining about the weather, I sure was complaining about her whining. I honestly believed I did not complain so often. I was shocked to see how much I actually do. I may not complain out loud, but it’s not the verbal expression that makes the complaint, it’s the thought itself. In this short period, I have learned it can be very subtle, it can come in a myriad of disguises, but they all have in common a sense of victimization. This feeling of being wronged diverts my attention from all things good and beautiful. That is not how I want to live, it is not who I want to be.  So this morning I went to A Complaint Free World and ordered my purple bracelet. I invite you to do the same. Be the change you want to see in others.

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    @ lil oh dear … life is hard. 😉

    @ Ellen I don’t know, but I’ve bought a bunch to give to family and friends.. if your interested, one will be available for you soon in the Netherlands. Under one condition only: you’ve got to come and get it yourself. 😉

  2. I read about the purple bracelet idea, and have been trying it out myself. Instead of the purple bracelet I went to a local store and bought a beautiful bracelet from India with dragons on it to scare the complaints away. I find it hard, even with the bracelet, to realize I’m complaining. Luckily I have good friends to call me on it.

  3. It is good that you recoginized that all thoughts count, not just the ones you say out loud. Good for you. This is a very powerful lesson.

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    @ Kayci Welcome! What I’m learning is not to take myself too seriously. I’ve discovered that when I think of learning as play, I take out the stress of having to live up to a certain standard and put back the fun of learning something new I experienced as a kid. So what if I trip? I laugh at myself, I get up and try again. How long do I keep up this time? Give it a try. Life just becomes so much easier. Have fun!

    @ Mark It’s all about intention.

  5. Hmm, als ik zo’n armband zou dragen dan kan ik natuurlijk niet meer zeuren want dat zou inconsequent zijn en daar zou ik dan weer uren over kunnen zeuren.

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    @ Tevjan Welcome! Thank you, I do my best.
    I just realize that trying to avoid something makes it more likely we bump into it at some point. Remember the exercise where you’re told you can think of anything, but don’t think of an elephant!… So maybe it is not as much about how to stop complaining as it is about practicing gratitude.

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    @ Kayci I just realized, to succeed gratitude alone will not do. It has to be combined with action. What can I do to change the situation and then act. We can do this. 🙂

  10. Action is key, one thing I’ve started doing is every week when I do my bills I send a Thank You card to someone. That’s been a lot of fun, and I’m always on the look out for cute Thank You cards now.

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