On the road, when you follow the direction signs you get to wherever you’re heading for. I have discovered only recently the same principle applies to everything in life. Nowadays, instead of saying where I don’t want to go, getting me nowhere, I simply state where I do want to go and automatically find the direction signs pointing to my destination.
Imagine the brain as a radar. When I state “I don’t want to eat chocolat chip cookies anymore.”, this leaves my brain with too many options. The brain needs a focus, so it takes the only information it has got, and starts scanning my environment for chocolat chip cookies, causing me to see them everywhere and think of all the places where I can buy them, making it very likely I will eventually eat the cookies I didn’t want in the first place. Having eaten those cookies, I will feel awful, guilty for not sticking to my diet, ashamed I couldn’t accomplish something as simple as that. I will feel like I can’t do anything right, I will never loose the weight I want to loose. If instead I would have said “I will eat an apple when I feel like eating.” My brain would have done the exact same thing with a totally different outcome. Having eaten that apple, I would feel good about myself for eating healthy, for sticking to my diet, affirming I can loose the weight, and on a unconscious level affirming I can do anything I want to do.
In order to go in the right direction, I have eliminated “don’t”, “won’t” and “can’t” out of my dictionary. If you haven’t done it already, I urge you to start right now. It makes all the difference in the world.